Transformation

EP004 - Open Relationships & Self-Awareness With Whitney Miller

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As someone who’s always pushing myself to the edge so I can understand life outside of my existing limited understanding, this episode is one of those conversations that really made me think. 

I found Whitney through Aubrey Marcus as Aubrey and I have a common love for Spirit Quest, a shamanic sanctuary deep in the amazon jungle. Whitney and Aubrey have been together for 7 years and for the past 5 years, they’ve been in a publicised open relationship. 

I’ve heard of open relationships but I never really understood how it functions and why people do it. And to be honest, it really triggers me like it triggers many other people.

For the record, I’m not a proponent of an open relationship nor against it. However, because it triggers me - which means there are fears, doubts, insecurities and beliefs in my blindside that I haven’t yet explored - I decided to bring Whitney on here to talk more about it. 

As we chatted more, I started to realise that it’s actually NOT about the open relationship. It’s really is only about what it brings up within us and bringing everything back to the Self so we can start to understand things on a deeper layer. 

This goes so in alignment with what I’m practising this year - bringing everything back to me as I’m the bridge to everything that shows up in my environment, so I can take radical responsibility and have brutal honesty with where I’m at, what needs to be transformed, where I’m holding myself back, where I’m projecting, etc. 

All I ask of you … is to listen with an open mind and remembering that it’s not about the open relationship. But more about what it brings up in you and how you’re showing up in your relationships. 

Who is Whitney Miller?

Former Miss United States and sports anchor, Whitney Miller has found her true calling helping individuals and couples as a Love, Sex and Relationship Coach. Her experiential journey to self-mastery started 5 years ago when she entered into a well publicized open relationship with her fiance, Aubrey Marcus. Whitney has since joined forces with some of the leading scientists and researchers in the field, and now hosts talks and workshops around the world. She believes that regardless of your relationship construct, monogamous or open, there are always ways to create more love, better sex, and healthier, happier relationships. 

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Timestamps

02:21 - How Whitney relates to fear

04:36 - All about being in an open relationship

07:14 - How Whitney started in her open relationship

09:56 - Jealousy in a relationship

12:39 - How to work through jealousy and communication issues

17:34 - Monogamous relationship vs open relationship

21:48 - How open relationship works

23:33 - Whitney's experience with plant medicines

26:00 - Whitney's biggest transformation with psychedelics

27:57 - Daily practices to stay grounded, clear, and be self aware

28:43 - Steps in exploring an open relationship or stepping into a new paradigm

31:43 - Beliefs create reality

34:18 - How to know you’re meant to stay or go in a relationship

Thank you so much for tuning in. I’m very honoured that you’re here and I’d love to hear your thoughts on our conversation. I read all the comments here. If you love this podcast, please give us a 5-Star Rating in iTunes. It would help us HUGELY to spread the message.

EP003 - Relationships & Self-Mastery With Dr. John Demartini

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If you’re someone who wants to understand things on a deeper level and are looking for someone who could explain things in the most profound, philosophical and practical yet simple way, this podcast is just for you. 

Dr. Demartini is one of the mentors that I hold dear to my heart - simply because of his unconventional teachings, what he embodies and mostly because of his unbelievable array of knowledge about literally everything. 

When I’m stuck in life and business, I turn to his teachings and I always find a solution. 

Obviously, we can cover only so much in 60 mins interview but I’ve gathered a list of questions from myself as well as from my community to which he answered thoroughly. 

Who’s Dr. John Demartini? 

Dr. John Demartini is a world renowned specialist in human behavior, a researcher, author and global educator. He has developed a series of solutions applicable across all markets, sectors and age groups. His education curriculum ranges from corporate empowerment programs, financial empowerment strategies, self-development programs, relationship solutions and social transformation programs. His teachings start at the core of the issue, addressing the human factor and range out to a multitude of powerful tools that have proven the test of time.

He has studied over 30000 books across all the defined academic disciplines and has synthesised the wisdom of the ages which he shares on stage in over 60 countries.

Timestamps

  • 00:41 Highest Values of Individuals and Clash of Values in Relationships

  • 02:43 How to link values to make any relationship work

  • 17:35 The beauty of having differences in values

  • 21:09 How to find the balance between people who have different values

  • 25:24 The Demartini Method

  • 30:38 How our body stores emotions in the muscles and how we can determine where we’re blocked emotionally based on the physical illnesses

  • 37:25 How to govern and regulate the emotions

  • 38:55 Forms of Stress

  • 40:36 Regulating fear as a mother and using Demartini Method in motherhood

  • 47:51 Important things parents should do for their children to grow up balanced and happy

  • 57:16 Relationship manifestation

  • 1:03:55 Wealth manifestation

  • 1:05:16 Dr. Demartini's current projects

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Thank you so much for tuning in. I’m very honoured that you’re here and I’d love to hear your thoughts on our conversation. I read all the comments here. If you love this podcast, please give us a 5-Star Rating in iTunes. It would help us HUGELY to spread the message.

EP002 - Unlock Your True Nature With Pia Meliane and Tariq Amawi

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Ever had one of those conversations where you just don’t want to stop and when it’s over, you’re left feeling high? 

That was my experience with Pia and Tah Riq today. I’m still trying to look for words to describe but all I can say is these two are next level humans who are doing amazing work in the world. But really, it’s not about the work that they do. 

It’s about who they are being. 

I’ve been experiencing postpartum anxiety the past week and was really struggling that. But having these kinds of convos that light my soul up and of course, just by being in their energy shifted me. 

In this interview, we covered so much about our conditioning, patterns, why we are the way we are and also how to unlock our true nature. 

Who is Pia and Tah Riq? 

As co-Founder of Helenika Travels, Tariq is a new paradigm unteacher and passionate deprogrammer of childhood beliefs, emotional blocks and societal conditioning. Through living and leading by example, Tariq assists others to manifest not just things, but their true selves and embody and live their passions into being.

A celebrated TEDx Speaker , Slam Poetry champion, Author, self-taught flamenco guitarist and parkour athlete, Tariq will show you how to bring your future self into reality today to manifest your vision.

Co-founder of the lux transformational retreats Helenika Travels, Pia has held close to 70 retreats over the last 10 years in exotic sanctuaries across the globe. Part Eastern wisdom-keeper part Western boss babe, Pia has studied with spiritual masters and mentors from the Amazon to India, and will show you how to integrate clarity and energy into your work.

She is also a detox and nutrition coach and womens empowerment teacher who can show how to be authentic with your message on social media with powerful energy and intention.

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Timestamps

01:59 Tariq's journey

04:18 Pia's journey

09:16 Fundamental things that hold people back in their lives

12:08 Focusing on external things vs valuing inner wisdom & knowledge

16:29 What humanity needs now

19:30 You attract who you are being

22:29 Neutralizing the negative spiral

26:39 We are wired to think negativity

32:24 Pia and Tariq’s retreats

35:22 Practices to continuously uplevel

38:39 Rewriting the financial destiny & manifestation of abundance

41:53 What you should do now to see results

46:15 Advices from Pia and Tariq

52:12 A gift from Pia and Tariq

Thank you so much for tuning in. I’m very honoured that you’re here and I’d love to hear your thoughts on our conversation. I read all the comments here. If you love this podcast, please give us a 5-Star Rating in iTunes. It would help us HUGELY to spread the message.

EP001 - Welcome + How Our Thoughts Create Our Reality

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Welcome to The Awakened Leaders podcast. I’m your host Arabelle and I’m so glad you’re here!

You know how many times in our lives, we go against our own truth… what our soul or our heart has been telling us the whole time and we do things out of fear, doubts, generational conditioning, cultural beliefs and social programming?

I know I’ve done this so many times before. I’ve made choices because that’s what I was taught growing up or the society told me to. 

Like for example, in our culture, people tend to say if a man isn’t drinking, cheating, gambling, stealing or doing drugs, then he’s a good man. So if you’re in a relationship with someone who doesn’t do any of that, if I choose to walk away because of other reasons, then I’m a bad person. 

Because of that, I’ve stayed in relationships for the wrong reasons even when my heart was telling me to go. 

And the same goes for many other things in life. 

I’d like to call myself a Truth Seeker but also a Life Catalyst. 

Truth Seeker because I’m constantly pushing myself to the edge to uncover my own blindspots, what are the excuses I’ve been creating in my life, how I’m holding myself back from standing in my light, what my soul is telling me to do and doing my part to pause everyday to centre and listen to the guidance. 

And Life Catalyst because I’m absolutely obsessed with helping people see another side of life. Coz if you think about it, life is all about perspective. We’re all looking at things through our own subjective lenses - beliefs, values and the programs that were installed since growing up. 

And this podcast is exactly that. I bring on guests who are being and living a different way of life embodying traits that allow them to move through life with ease. 

My hope is that the conversations I have with these guests and also my solo episodes challenge your beliefs, question your choices, inspire you to look at things from a different light and hopefully awaken you to your truth. 

As I am also on this journey called life. 

Talking about truth… I want to touch on it a little bit more. This word confuses a lot of people. Because truth is subjective. But I see many people who doesn’t know this yet push their truths on others and demand them to meet those unrealistic expectations. 

Truth is subjective. And truth changes. 

Let me explain. 

You know that when we create new thoughts… thoughts that are different from current thoughts should create new choices. And new choices create new behaviours. New behaviours lead to new emotions. And new emotions create more new thoughts. 

This is evolution. 

But most of us think the same thoughts, make the same choices, have the same behaviours and repeat the same experiences. As a result, we start to get familiar with certain emotions and then we repeat the same thoughts. And that’s stagnation. Not evolution. 

Like Dr. Joe D says… The privilege of being a human is that we can create a thought more real than anything else. We can focus on that possibility on the exclusion of everything else. And we can knock our body out of physiological balance just by that thought alone. And our body, which is an unconscious mind, believes that it is what it’s really experiencing in that point in time. 

And in that moment, we bring past memories to life just by thought alone. And as you know when we live in that state long enough, our bodies start to get under stress and produce stress hormones that over can make us sick. 

That means, our thoughts can make us sick. So if our thoughts can make us sick, then our thoughts can also make us well. 

Our mind and body are always working together. What we don’t know is… we continuously look for problems, stresses and challenges in life so we can feed our emotional addiction to certain feelings and so we can validate who we think we are - I am sad. I am depressed. I am not enough. I am a failure. I am unloveable. As you know, the moment we start saying anything after the word “I AM”, we’re telling ourselves that that’s who we are. 

Overtime, that becomes our personality. We lose sight all the other possibilities gradually. We start living one dimensional. We lose perceptive. 

So here’s a question for you… why do we stay in relationships when we know that they’re not healthy for us? Why do we stay in jobs that are taking a toll on us? Why do we keep ourselves getting into the same problem, just with different people in our life? 

Again, we do these things because we need to reaffirm who we think we are. 

And that’s how I’d like to play a small role in your life. To remind you through these conversations that you are more than who you think you are. To offer you another perspective in life so you can step into your highest potential. And trigger you a little sometimes so you can question “what is this bringing up in me”. 

If you’re new here, please come and connect with me on Instagram and Facebook. You can find me as Arabelle Yee. 

Remember, you can be, do and have anything that your soul desires. You are enough. You are loved. You are seen. And you are deeply appreciated. See you in my next episode.