“What’s stopping me from stepping into a leader I want to be?"
That’s what my client asked in one of our coaching sessions. She’s taken leadership trainings, reads books, listens to audios, podcasts and attends every possible personal development seminars out there.
So what’s happening here?
I always say that most of the time, we’re the ones who’s in the way of our success (whatever your definition of success may be). I believe that we all have the infinite potential to tap into our personal leadership and all it takes is a little nudge or a different perceptive for us to be able to do that.
So here are the 4 simple things to help you become a great feminine leader.
1. There’s a formula I learned a while ago that’s so simple yet so powerful.
Intention + Action = Result.
We all have the intent of what we want to do. However, if we’re really honest with ourselves, it’s more of a “wish” than an intention.
We wish we were happier. We wish we were 5kg lighter. We wish we had a successful business. We wish we had the confidence.
Wishing alone isn't enough. Have the intention of what we ARE going to achieve and follow through that with ACTIONS. Actions don’t have to be big steps - small and consistent steps will move you towards results. Because as the saying goes, you can’t steer a parked car so at least get your car moving so you can navigate it to a direction.
2. Integrity of your words - Integrity isn’t something that exists only when we’re dealing with others.
Integrity starts within us.
So do you keep your words? Do you do what you say you would?
Because when you do what you said you would, you will take action and your words will start to mean something to yourself. When your words have power, you will respect yourself. When you respect yourself, others will start to respect you.
3. We’re all humans. We have our moments where we feel like “a mess” having to deal with a lot of our 'stuff'.
It’s ok to be messy; it makes us human.
It is about recognising that we’re a little messy right now and that we need to take time off to recalibrate and recuperate. And when it’s time, it’s about putting our emotions in the passenger seat acknowledging that they’re there while we drive to our direction.
4. How many times do we say things to hurt ourselves? I’m not good enough. I don’t know enough. I don’t have what it takes to be a leader.
When we repeat that inner critic on a daily basis, we’ve convinced ourselves enough that we’re not worthy enough to be leaders.
But here’s the thing - it’s about paying attention to what we’re saying to ourselves. It’s a habit and because it’s a habit, we can create a new habit too - which is to say the opposite. Start with little praises. What I find really works is when you catch yourself saying something that doesn’t serve you, consciously think of 5 things that says the opposite.
There are many aspects to becoming a great leader. This is one aspect of it - which is leading your inner-self.
So before I go, here are some questions for you to get brutally honest, ponder and leave a comment below.
- Do your actions align to your words?
- Do you show up for your intentions?
- Do you say you want to be happy, yet all you do is think of unhappy thoughts?
- Do you say you want to make money, yet you just find excuses why you can’t?
- Do you say you want to be a great leader, yet you spend most your time not taking any action?
If you say yes to at least one of them, then it’s time for you to do what you say you would and take action.