1. What are you scared of?

Spiders, I'm really scared of spiders but other than that psychologically or emotionally, what am I scared of? I think I'm scared to be alone and that's also the reason why I'm living here in this house where it's far away from everyone that I know. I don't normally see a lot of people, I don't normally go out that much. I mean I'm online a lot but I don't actually have that face-to-face interaction with people a lot. I chose to be that way because one thing that I'm most scared of is being alone. I am alone so I'm actually pushing my limits and pushing my boundaries so that I can get comfortable with the uncomfortable.

Fear is something ... It's a part of life. It's something that we're going to experience in every stage of our life. Even if we have overcome a certain type of fear, there'll always be another type of fear that comes up. I think how I deal with fear is, before I would distract myself with so many things. For example, if I'm so scared of being alone, which is one of my fears, I would surround myself with so many people or I would hang out with my friends all the time so that I just don't have the time to be me.

Then how I deal with it is I actually when something scares me, I actually go and do it. Because being alone scares me a lot ... I'm out here alone almost in isolation unless I'm not because you're here with me right now. Yeah, so when something scares me and when I have fear, I follow my fear. I make fear my friend. I learn from my fear because it's teaching me something and that's how I'm able to move on.

2. What's one regret you have in your life? 

I used to regret about a lot of things, but if I have to think of one now I don't have because I had an understanding. The moment I understood that there's nothing to regret about because every decision that we make in our life is based on the knowledge and wisdom and the knowing that we had at the time. That's the best decision that we could make and we could come up with so then there's no point regretting over things. It's just that if we didn't like the results that we get from our past actions and experiences, then we can do things differently in the future.

3. How do you stay positive?

That's a good question because I don't know, it's become so automatic for me. One thing that I want to say though, I am not positive all the time. You know the things that you see on social media is only a part of my life, it's not my whole life. It's only bits and pieces that I have captured in certain times in my life or in my day. I have to say that the past one year has been one of the most challenging times in my life and there were so many times that I cried. There were so many times that I'm so scared, there are so many times that I feel so down and depressed and also negative as well. However I think I managed to find positivity in many things and I can probably say that I'm positive ninety percent or ninety-five percent of the time. I think I would say that's because I have trained myself enough to allow myself to see things from a different perspective.

When we're so one directional and when we are looking at things from just one perspective, there's no other way for us but to feel bad but then I know that there are choices and I can make choices. At any point in time I can choose positivity or negativity. Yes, it's hard but then which one do I really want in my life? I want positivity so I choose positivity. It's about the conscious choice that I do all the time. Another thing is also re-framing and seeing things from the other perspective. If it's about another person, also putting myself in their shoes so that I can understand their views and their worldviews and their respective and where they're coming from. I guess that's how I am able to remain positive most of the time.

4. Why are you here?

I was asked that question just a few days ago and I believe that ... When I say, "Why am I here?" I'm not talking about here here, I'm talking about here on this planet earth. Why am I here? I think I believe there are still lessons to be learned. I have a purpose that I need to serve and my purpose is to learn more, expand my consciousness and also serve the humanity and that's why I'm here.

5. What do you want most in your life?

What do I want most in my life? That question is such a paradox. I could say things like, "I want to be happy. I want to have freedom for me to be able to do things that I want to do. I want to be able to live on a mountain away from the city in isolation from time to time so that I can do the deep inner work and be surrounded by nature and trees so that I can get connected." Those are the things that I want. Then again on the other hand, everything that I want is here already in me. I guess to answer your question what do I want most in my life, would be peace, happiness and to be able to serve people so that I can live in alignment with my highest values. I'm already doing that and I think I'm getting there.

6. What's one thing that's most important when building a business? 

The one thing that's most important when building a business definitely is mindset. Mindset is everything because business is eighty percent mindset and twenty percent mechanics. If we don't have the right mindset to build a business, then it's not going to work. That's why I say that business is one of the best self-development tools out there available for us. It really pushes our limits, it really pushes our boundaries, and it pushes us to look at the areas that we don't want to face.

When you build a business you're going to face a lot of self-doubt, fear, a sense of not feeling good enough, not feeling worthy enough, money mindset, money issues, a lot of things come into play. Your success in business totally depends on your mindset and that's why it's extremely important that whenever you are starting a business, whoever is starting a business, especially those who are in the coaching, mentoring, consulting and healing space, it's extremely important for us to look within, go within and develop ourselves so that we can holographically create that shift in other people, the people that we work with as well.

7. How do you find courage?

How do I find courage? That's a great question. I don't know actually. I don't give up. I'm not a quitter. I don't know why I'm not a quitter but I've never been one. Because I don't want to quit, because I don't want to give up, there's no other way for me but to just keep moving on. For me to keep moving on there's no other way for me than to find courage because that's the only thing that's going to push me to get to where I want to be.

I don't know how to answer your question how do I find courage. I think one of the ways that I found courage is by doing the deep inner work, by really facing my own deepest darkest fears, insecurities, and emotional baggage and letting go of them, and by peeling myself of layers after layers of societal personal programming, the self-imposed barriers, the fears and everything that we have put on us over the years. By peeling myself off all those layers, I was able to slowly tap into my inner wisdom and I think that also helped me find my courage as well.

8. What do you want to change about yourself?

I don't want to change anything about myself. There was a time when I wanted to change so many things about myself. I wanted to be taller. I wanted to be slimmer. I wanted to have nicer teeth. I didn't like my eyes. There was a point where I didn't like my hair. Oh, I also wanted to have six [packs 00:08:47] and all muscles and everything. There were a lot of things that I wasn't happy with myself. Now I fully accept myself and there's nothing I want to change about myself. If you would say self-development is a way of changing myself, that's pretty much the only thing. I want to grow myself and maybe that's the only thing that I want to change.

9. Are you an introvert or extrovert?

Am I an introvert or extrovert? I think I'm a half-introvert and half-extrovert because I love talking to people. I love spending time with people but then when I do that a lot I get really, really drained. I think that's why I live in isolation most of the time so that I can do the work on myself. I can work on my own, I have my own privacy and space. Space is extremely important for me to re-calibrate, recuperate and really ... What's the word? ... recharge myself. When I'm with people, I love it. I love talking to people. I love spending time with people so I think I'm half-half.

10. What's your vision? 

My vision is to travel to all these places where there is this ancient wisdom that is almost untapped. I have been thinking about this and talking about it for a year now. I have been saying it just for fun but now I'm starting to realize that it's actually fear holding me back. What I really want to do is I want to start that in Australia first. I want to drive around and travel all over Australia, go to the outback with my dog. I want to spend time with the indigenous people, learn from the elders their way of ancient, I don't know, ancient wisdom, their way of healing and living. I really want to learn from them and I want to do a little documentary.

I also want to do the same, traveling to Burma, all over Burma. Traveling back to South America, traveling to Tibet, traveling to India. I want to do that and I now realize that I can actually make that happen. I just don't know how yet but it's something that's in my vision. The reason why I want to do that is because first and foremost I want to learn. I want to have the direct experience because I'm all about ... I've done a lot of seminars, a lot of conferences. I've read a lot of books. I can't even count how many books I've read in my life.

Now is the time for me to have the direct experience and learn. Once I have learned and have the direct experience and grow myself and expand my consciousness, then I want to bring out what I have learned within out into the world. I want to share my experience with people who are wanting to experience the same things or learn the same things. There's so much separation going on in the world right now. It's about you and me and us and them and all these isms, about whether it's religion or whatever, all these isms they are separating all of us. One thing that I have learned through my deep inner work is that we're actually not separate.

There's scientific evidence of that, that we're actually all connected. We're all one. By really going to all these places and having that direct experience, I really want to show people that we're not separate. We're all one. We're all going towards the same directions. Sometimes it's just sad some of us are misguided. There's this way of living that doesn't involve this synthetic world where you ... One of my mentors just said the other day that there is this organic internet which is the consciousness but then we have this synthetic internet which is our Internet.

The same thing as we have this sacred masculine and sacred feminine within us. However, we have created this synthetic feminine and synthetic masculine that is recognized in the mainstream and kind of derailing. What I'm really trying to say is that I really want to travel and go and have these experiences because I want to share my [inaudible 00:13:26] experiences and share what I have learned with everyone.

11. What's on attribute that helped you to be where you are today?

One attribute that helped me to be where I am today definitely is ... One of the masculine traits that I have is the decisiveness. I'm very quick to decide and that's something that I have trained myself enough. Before I was so uncertain of everything. I used to so unsure of everything. Even when I'm in the grocery store, "Should I buy a broccoli or should I buy a cabbage?" I couldn't even make a decision about that. Now, even the biggest life decision, I can make a decision within an instant. Not to say it's the right decision but it is the courage to make the decision on the spot and willing to live with the consequences if it turned out to be not the best decision. I would say then making quick decisions is one of those things that clearly helped me to be where I am today.

12. How do you deal with uncertainty?

How do I deal with uncertainty? Uncertainty is the only certain thing in life, right? Actually I just posted on Facebook the other day that I used to plan a lot. I was a proud planner before. One day I was in my meditative state and this insight came through. I asked myself, "Why do I plan? Why do I plan a lot?" Because I don't like the uncertainty. Why do I not like the uncertainty? Because I want to control. I want to control the outcome so that I have to plan every step of the way for me to know exactly what I'm going to get out of it.

That also means that I'm not trusting in the process because the moment control comes in, that means there's no trust. That's when I realized that that was a profound moment for me. If I could get comfortable with the uncertainty then how is that going to change my life? It has changed my life a lot because first I acknowledged that everything is uncertain. To be honest, if you really think about it, we don't even know what's going to happen to us tomorrow. We don't even know what's going to happen to us in the next hour. We take things for granted so much. We take life for granted but nothing is certain.

When we really take that knowledge into our heart and really accept that, that's the first step of acknowledging uncertainty, that it's okay that everything is uncertain but then uncomfortable with that uncertainty. The next thing is that then what's the next thing that I can do is becoming aware if I have worries coming up but then being present and observing my own fear and wanting to control the outcome. Letting go of the attachment to the outcome but trusting in life and trusting in myself and trusting in my path. That defies logic and that is hard to understand unless you really practice it. When you do it as an ongoing practice in your life you're going to find that things just open up. Possibilities just open up. Yeah, you do face a lot more challenges but they make you do learn a lot as well. That's how I deal with uncertainty.

13. What's your message for those who are watching?

My message for those who are watching. My message for you is to really if you can, allow yourself to trust in yourself, to chose love over fear. So many times we lean towards fear and we get stuck and we get overwhelmed and we doubt ourselves and we doubt our abilities. If you really think about it, we all have that infinite potential and infinite wisdom within us that we can tap into if only we get ourselves out of the way. Really we're the only ones who's in our way of success, of achievement, of spiritual awakening, personal growth, whatever it is.

I would say that try trusting yourself, try trusting others even if it ... A lot of us feel that when we trust others that means that they're going to walk all over us. What we do is we defend. We defend ourselves by putting the walls up and those walls will keep you and keep us safe but those are the same walls that's going to stop all the great things. That's going to stop the possibilities, that's going to stop joy and love coming into our way. Trust and choose love over fear. It's easier said than done. I know that because I've been there before but I'm also the living proof that after practicing and making a conscious reminder to chose love over fear, over time it has become almost automatic for me. I hope that whoever is watching this find that love within you because you have that infinite potential and infinite source of love that's available for all of us and it's available to you now.

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